Ishqr and God and Love

Back in January, an email from Ishqr dropped in my inbox. I’d read some of the posts they sponsored on different Muslim sites, so the name was familiar. Essentially, they are a Muslim dating website. You don’t see people’s real names, ever, unless they tell you themselves, and you can only see each other’s picture if there is a mutual expression of interest.

All of that appeals to me. I like the idea of evaluating someone on the basis of their personality and how they present themselves before deciding on the physical attraction part. It’s not denying that looks and sexual attraction are important; it’s saying that before being blinded by physical attraction (as many do become, come on, admit it), you should see if you are attracted to the rest of that person. Continue reading

Facing Your Flaws in Relationships

INTRODUCING a blogging collaboration called 12TOPICS with Bobbi. Each month has been assigned a topic. On the second Tuesday of every month, we’ll be writing a post based on a prompt about the chosen topic from our own perspectives + experiences. On the last Tuesday of every month, our 12TOPICS posts will be about that topic more generally.

We won’t be sharing our posts with each other ahead of time. We want to make sure you truly get our own, separate perspectives (+ the surprise factor is so much more fun for us as well!) I’m so excited for this collab! Seeing it unfold every month is becoming my favourite.

This month’s topic is relationships (for obvious reasons) and today’s question is: what’s one trait of a successful relationship (of any kind)?

[The question says any kind of relationship, but I’m going to address relationships that include affection and love.]


I’ve been thinking about this question for weeks. I mean, there are the obvious ones: honesty, communication, etc, but it wasn’t so much that I was looking for a novel answer but one that would mean something to me, personally.

I started thinking about all the relationships in my life. With my parents. My brother. My friends. Romantic partners. All the important relationships. Admittedly, some are not that healthy. However, some are stellar. One trait stood out to me. The one I find I value so very highly. One I struggle with in some relationships and one that is there in every amazing relationship I’ve ever had. It’s a trait both people must possess. Continue reading

Currently Happening

I am..

  • ironing out details for several different projects.

  • figuring out a game plan for 26in52 going forward.

  • creating the presentation for my upcoming talk using reveal.js (first time, it’s so fun!).

  • still getting used to the idea that rejection doesn’t hurt. In fact, it’s the most freeing thing to happen to me this week. A part of me is waiting for me to feel terrible (I mean. It does right? It should? I’ve never had a boy reject me before so Continue reading

What Happened in January 2015

January was c.r.a.z.y! This month was a whirlwind and lots of things I didn’t expect to happen, happened. It both threw me off my game and redefined the game. (If you’re new to the blog, check out my 2015 vision here.) Let me explain.

The month started off really well. I was hyper focussed on fitness, resetting my sleep schedule, and PHOENIX|D. I bought a French Press and it was the best purchase. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed having coffee most mornings, such a good start to the day.

I also took part in the Cold Shower Therapy challenge (full blast cold shower for 5 minutes first thing in the morning) for about 15 days. This was hard and crazy and exhilarating, and did wonders for my mindset. I went into it thinking I was going to kill myself and came out of it marvelling my ability to do what I want when I set my mind on it. For February, I’m doing it again. 15 days. Cold showers. GAME ON BABY. Continue reading

Forging New Friendships in a New City

INTRODUCING a blogging collaboration called 12TOPICS. Each month has a topic. On the second Tuesday of every month, we’ll be writing a post based on a prompt about the topic we decided on from our own perspectives + experiences. On the last Tuesday of every month, our 12TOPICS posts will be about that topic more generally.

We won’t be sharing our posts with each other ahead of time. We want to make sure you truly get our own, separate perspectives (+ the surprise factor is so much more fun for us as well!) I’m so excited for this collab!

This month’s topic is friendship.


The process of making new friends has been different every time I’ve encountered it. It was different making new friends in a small high school in Fort McMurray. It was totally different making new friends in university, living in a culturally diverse dorm. And it’s different out of school, working from home, in a new-to-me city.

Being away from my core group of friends and still wanting to be social has had a number of effects on me. I’ve been more committed to trying new things, I’ve said yes to watching more movies than I ever did with groups before, and I’m actively cultivating more relationships online.

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